Hey guys 🙂
In my last post I talked about the importance of seeing the positives of mental illness and bipolar remission in particular. Today I want to expand on that and talk about something that I notice a lot of people doing whether they have a mental illness or not and that is playing the victim.
Some people reading this are not going to like what I have to say and may feel I don’t truly understand their circumstances and that’s true, I probably don’t, but what I do understand is the longer you stay a victim of your life, the further away you are from leading a healthy, stable and happy life and isn’t that what we all want? For some people, apparently not although they claim otherwise.
I stayed a victim for a long time. Especially before my diagnoses of bipolar disorder. Nothing was my fault and everyone else had the problem. I left a trail of destruction miles long and I insisted on staying that way.
The thing is, having a mental illness comes with plenty of challenges but that doesn’t mean it is an excuse to stay a perpetual victim. Truth is, whether you like it or not, there comes a point where you need to own your actions and you need to take responsibility for them. Stop living in the past. Stop playing the blame game and stop using your mental illness as an excuse for everything wrong in your life and for your actions. If you don’t have a mental illness, I know plenty of “normal” people doing the same damn thing.
Personally, I have to wonder if some people in general whether they have a mental illness or not stay a victim purely for attention. I don’t know if this makes sense but in some cases, people seem oddly content to be unhappy. They can talk the talk but they can’t walk the walk.
If you want to be happy in life you need to take a hard look in the mirror. Own up to the role you have played in your life and the role you have played in others lives. Stop being afraid of being happy! Forgive yourself and move on. Your mental illness does not have to define you! If I sound harsh to you then you are probably still playing the victim and if that’s what you want to be then expect nothing to change in your life.
As Einstein said…
The definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over expecting the same result.
So yeah, if you want to stay the victim, that is exactly what you will be. If all you want out of life is a pity party…trust me that gets old fast and you can expect people to give up on you just as quickly and rightfully so!
Own your mental illness, own your life! If you truly want to get on the path of a more stable life you need to work for it and you need to truly want it.
I am not trying to say you are not allowed to have bad days…we all have them and with mental illness it can be that much harder to stay positive at times and I am not trying to take that away from anyone. All I am saying is if you want your life to change…you need to change. It really is that simple.
Take Care! ❤