Sorry it’s been a few days since my last post but I needed to recharge my writing batteries. I am sure my fellow writers can relate! 🙂
Today I want to talk about something we are all faced with at some point. Letting go.
There are many things we are faced with in life that prompt the question “Should I stay or should I go.” (great song by the way)
In the past, letting go was something I seriously struggled with. It never really crossed my mind to turn to God during these times and allow Him to take over. Sometimes, in order for God to work through us we have to be willing to step aside and let Him do his work.
Do not be anxious about anything, but in everything by prayer and supplication with thanksgiving let your requests be made known to God.
Letting go can be frightening. Even if we know that deep down we need to walk away, many of us will hang on to bad relationships, jobs, influences etc. for we drown ourselves in fear of the unknown. But God knows. He is leaps and bounds ahead of us and He knows what he wants for us even if we can’t see it at the time.
If we are not willing to jump, how is God supposed to catch us?
Even if we stray from God, He manages to whisper to our soul the wishes He has for us. It manifests into that gut feeling we get when we know something needs to change for the better. He’s always there.
When we feel pain and despair. When we feel stuck, when we cry at night thinking no one is watching, God cries with us. He wishes not to hurt us only to lift us up.
Let Him. ❤
It’s been my personal experience that the hardest thing to do is walk away from the people we love. Especially if we are worried for their wellbeing. We ask –
“If I walk away from this person, who will take care of them?”
It has also been my experience that when you face your fear of letting go and take the plunge, it’s never as bad as you think it’s going to be. On the contrary, it is in fact one of the most liberating things you can do! Once we free ourself from the chains of fear, God rewards us! It makes Him so happy that you put your faith in Him and in turn he blesses you with His love, joy and comfort.
If life were easy, there would be no need for faith. God puts our faith to the test not to punish us but to draw us closer and closer to Him so that He can protect us from the evil that roams this earth. Being true to God means you have to be true to yourself. We are a reflection of God’s image.
Therefore, if anyone is in Christ, he is a new creation. The old has passed away; behold, the new has come.
In closing, know that you are not alone. There may be dark clouds in the sky but when you rise above those clouds, you see the sun is shining bright! Allow yourself to place your burdens on God. He can handle it. He is God after all. You are a reflection of God and by loving yourself enough to let go, you love God.
Today, I want to start off by saying it does not matter if you have an existing mental illness or not. We are all at risk for burnout.
Physical or mental collapse caused by overwork or stress.
Are you burning out?
In Canada, billions of dollars (yes, billions) are spent related to mental health problems in the workplace. This accounts for over 75% of short term disability claims.
It’s an epidemic.
I have fell victim to burnout before. In hindsight, I feel I could have prevented it had I paid more attention to the signs. I would like to go over some of the signs today in the hopes that if you’re reading this, you can catch and prevent burnout before it’s too late.
1. Sleep Disturbances:
I place a lot of importance on this one. Proper sleep is crucial for our mental and physical wellbeing. Sure, we all have a night here and there when a full eight hours just doesn’t happen but definitely keep an eye out for insomnia and on the other end of the spectrum, chronic fatigue.
Neither one is healthy and if ignored in the early stages, it can become a vicious cycle that becomes very difficult to break out of. When your brain won’t shut off or refuses to turn on, this is the first sign something is not right. Do not ignore this!
2. Lack of Concentration and Forgetfulness:
Once your sleep patterns are off you will start to notice you just can’t seem to focus at work anymore. Simple tasks become daunting and that is if you are lucky enough to remember those tasks in the first place. This too becomes a vicious cycle. You may notice your boss is on your case more..
“Why isn’t this done already?…We talked about this yesterday…remember?”
You start to miss deadlines, memos, lunch and breaks because you are trying to make up for your lack of organization which in turn, just adds more stress to the existing problem…
3. Loss of Appetite:
Since you have been missing lunch and breaks trying to catch up on your work, your appetite starts to go off the rails. You may find you don’t have an appetite at all anymore or you may find yourself going without food most of your shift only to come home and eat one giant meal…and since you can’t sleep, you might as well turn on Netflix and eat that bag of chips and drink a gallon of pop…
4. Anxiety and Depression:
As you continue down this rabbit hole, it is not long before you find yourself on edge about your work. Not only are you having trouble getting out of bed in the morning but you are seriously not looking forward to your day anymore.
At this point, you have most likely spent sleepless nights stressing over what has to get done the next day. It makes it harder and harder to walk through those doors no matter how many cups of coffee you drink.
Coworkers who used to brighten your day just don’t cut it anymore. You look around and see everyone going about their workday with relative ease. You start to feel isolated because you feel you are the only one who is not able to keep up with the pack.
5. Physical Symptoms and Increased Illness:
Your brain rules the body and when your brain is not happy, the rest of your body will follow suit. You may notice chest pain, stomach troubles, headaches, tense muscles etc. This takes a toll on your immune system making you more susceptible to illness. You find yourself going from perfect attendance to using up those sick days at a rapid rate.
You have now gone from being a ray of sunshine at work to a dark cloud of cynicism. You’re snappy, detached, resentful, and ultimately start to not give a flying (you know what) about whether or not you return that email or finish that project on time.
After all, you’ve been coming into work early and leaving late to make up for the fact you cannot complete your work during your regular shift. You’re working overtime (and most likely not getting paid for it). In your mind, you have done more than anyone else at work and you start to resent your boss and your coworkers because none of them seem to be appreciating the extra effort.
Nobody else cares so why should you?
Once you have reached the anger stage, consider yourself done. It will officially not get any better from here on in unless you take action. Your boss and coworkers at this point would rather avoid you as your state of mind is now considered to be a liability to the rest of the team which only fuels your resentment.
Although it may not feel like it, you do have some options here. I highly recommend taking stress leave. If that is off the table for you than consider switching to a different department and then there is the option no one likes to admit, leave your job.
I know what you’re thinking right now…
“I can’t do that! How will I pay my bills? How will I… (insert one of your many excuses not to save your mental and physical health here.)
The thing is, if you do not acknowledge this for what it is and continue down this path of destruction, pretty soon you will not have a choice. You will either be fired or in the emergency room suffering from a full blown nervous breakdown.
That’s the reality should you choose to ignore all of this. It will not be a matter of if but when.
On top of that, it’s not just in the workplace, your home life will suffer miserably. The people who truly matter will be pushed away.
If you have a partner or spouse, I can assure you this will lead to arguments and fights. It can even lead to more serious complications like divorce. If you have children especially, why risk their well being because you are refusing to take care of your own?
Is it really worth it?
I sincerely hope that if you are reading this and relate to even one of the signs I have listed, take action before it is too late. Talk to your doctor, talk to HR and perhaps give yourself a talking to.
Your mental wellbeing is worth taking care of! Not just for yourself but for those you love. If you put yourself on the backburner you will burnout.
Sorry for the late post today. I usually write first thing in the morning but I was kind of busy….I had a job interview! 😀
In yesterday’s post I talked about not giving up when you’re feeling discouraged. I was feeling that way because in the last month, I had applied for 16 jobs and nothing was happening…unless you include the one call back I received telling me the position had been filled…oh and one phone interview that appeared to go very well but umm…never to be heard from again…
So yeah I wrote that post yesterday morning as a way to keep my spirits up and maybe other people’s spirits that required lifting…by that afternoon, the phone rang… it was for me! Next thing I know, I am in an interview first thing this morning. It went really well (and it was actually in person)…Then, by this afternoon I was informed the job is mine!
It’s funny in a way because I was officially at my wits end with this job search…I prayed on it, I put a lot of effort into my job search, I tried my best to stay positive and I tried to understand that God must have a plan that He wasn’t ready to reveal to me just yet and just as I was about to blow up, God was like…”Cavelle, chill out I got this!”
Today I want to discuss something we have all experienced at some point in our lives and that is feelings of discouragement.
I am currently feeling that way. I have been looking for work and just seem to be hitting brick wall after brick wall. It’s times like this when I should definitely be turning to God for His guidance and have faith that He has a plan for me even though I don’t see it right now.
Easier said than done sometimes, right?
So that being said, I have decided instead of allowing the feelings of discouragement to take over, I need to keep my head held high and not give up. As someone who lives with bipolar disorder, it’s crucial I don’t let myself sink into a depression over this so this morning I am turning to the Bible for guidance and encouragement.
Therefore, my beloved brothers, be steadfast, immovable, always abounding in the work of the Lord, knowing that in the Lord your labor is not in vain.
I have to believe that if you work for the Lord, He will work for you. 🙂
I feel I am also taking these negative feelings and worries and turning it into a positive by writing about it here. I know I am not alone and that many people can relate and perhaps by writing about it I might be able to touch someone who also needs their spirits lifted. That makes me feel good. It’s therapeutic and takes you out of your head. I love writing. ❤
So yeah, if you’re in the same boat, I feel you and just know you are not alone. If you believe in Him, turn your worries over to God. He’s always ready and willing to help. ❤
We need to celebrate us! We are all strong and we are all…
If you are a bipolar disorder survivor or any type of mental illness survivor, please add the name and link to your blog in my comment section and I will add your name and link and your comments to the top of my page today.
Also, I will add the name and link to your blog on the side of my page permanently.
Please post a comment about your story and journey of being a bipolar disorder survivor or any other type of mental illness survivor or any other information you want to add. Write as much information as you want to share.
I want to compile a list of all bloggers writing about bipolar disorder and any type of mental illness.
It will be very valuable for myself and for everyone to have a list of all…
But if anyone does not provide for his relatives, and especially for members of his household, he has denied the faith and is worse than an unbeliever.
Pretty strong words Timothy…
When we think of providing for relatives, I think most people immediately think of it in the financial sense because that is the kind of world we live in today. Everything revolves around money, which just happens to be the root of all evil and Timothy is also kind enough to point that out to us –
For the love of money is a root of all kinds of evils. It is through this craving that some have wandered away from the faith and pierced themselves with many pangs.
So many families have been torn apart by money and the lies that can be attached to it but it’s time to redefine what providing for relatives really means.
It is my belief that God’s wallet can provide more for you and your family (whether it’s your immediate family, extended family,blood related or not) than money ever could so before you get yourself entangled in yet another cold war, I would like you to consider something –
If your family is reaching out to you for money, especially all the time, stop to consider what the underlying issue may be. Is it really financial? On the surface that may be the case but have you really taken the time to understand their situation? Lend an ear or a shoulder perhaps?Or are you just throwing money at the problem in the hopes that they and their problem will just go away?
There is nothing wrong with helping family out with financial troubles but many times family members will keep score and all it takes is one wrong move for the volcano of resentment to erupt. If you cannot part ways with your money without strings attached, don’t give your money. On the flip side of that, if you are the one in need of money and it comes with strings attached, don’t take the money.
Today, many of us feel like money is the key to happiness. We feel that as soon as we get that new car or house or raise, that our lives will just magically turn around for the better and we think if we help out a family member financially that all their problems will go away and that they will be happy too but the Bible tells us straight up that God has already got you covered –
Keep your life free from love of money, and be content with what you have, for he has said, “I will never leave you nor forsake you.”
Be content with what you have. Why is that such a hard concept for most of us to grasp? Why do we insist on chasing the carrot? For every one person out there who is wishing for more money, more this and more that, there is one person out there wishing for a fraction of what we already have.
When you have access to God’s bank account, you start to see that your life becomes richer in all areas and believe it or not, that can include money!
Perfect example of this in the Bible is when God answers King Solomon –
1 Kings 3:10-14
10The Lord was pleased that Solomon had asked for wisdom. 11So God replied, “Because you have asked for wisdom in governing my people with justice and have not asked for a long life or wealth or the death of your enemies— 12I will give you what you asked for! I will give you a wise and understanding heart such as no one else has had or ever will have! 13And I will also give you what you did not ask for—riches and fame! No other king in all the world will be compared to you for the rest of your life! 14And if you follow me and obey my decrees and my commands as your father, David, did, I will give you a long life.”
It’s time to stop throwing money at all of life’s problems and ask God to help us. It’s time to stop buying your family’s love and actually connect with your family. Help your family get through tough times with love, patience, and understanding knowing that God will take care of the rest. ❤
To quote my mother –
“God is the creator of the universe and you think He can’t throw a few bucks your way?”