Back To Basics

Hey guys 🙂

Well this has to be a record. Three posts in 24 hrs. Reminds me of the good ole days when I used to have real blogging game. An SEO queen! lol but it’s not really what this post is about.

I’ve had quite the day. A rather emotional one. Some of it good. Some of it not so good. I feel like the devil got the best of me just a tad and so that’s why I have titled this post “Back To Basics” because when we lose our way and let people get the best of us, it’s exactly what the devil wants. He loves to see you fall apart and stray from your faith.

So what are we to do when that happens? It’s simple. Turn to God, and so that is what I am doing right now.

I am mentally and emotionally exhausted. I have been up for 24 hrs now because for whatever reason, I always get one night shift where I just cannot sleep. Oh and did I mention I am staying late for a group work training session at 10:30 AM this morning? So instead of being done at the usual 7 AM I will be hanging around until then and from there I have no idea how long the training session will be…I feel tears lol

My days off are coming up soon though and next weekend my fiance and I are heading out on an overnight road trip. We desperately need this break and so I pray nothing gets in the way of that. We need this time and honestly, we deserve it.

I am going to try and take my own advice and just breathe. My mind has been racing today. I have not felt like myself and if  I can be truly honest, today has been a “bipolary” kind of day. Most days are fine and when they’re not I usually catch this sneaky beast but today it caught me. Not the worst it’s ever been. Far from it, but still sometimes it just sucks when you feel less in control than normal. Who likes that feeling?

All that aside, I just need to turn to what works in my life. God is at the top of that list. I just need to shake off the cobwebs and keep it simple. I am lucky that I have a supportive family and awesome cats lol. Aside from the basic needs like food and shelter, I’m set. 🙂

I have to do this a lot. Breathe and take inventory of what’s good and keep that list as uncomplicated as possible. It seems like I have to exercise this routine daily but it’s good practice and it works…at least for me it does.

So now that I am officially spent, I will close with this bible verse:

 

Isaiah 41:10

Fear not, for I am with you; be not dismayed, for I am your God; I will strengthen you, I will help you, I will uphold you with my righteous right hand.

 

Take Care & God Bless ❤

Cavelle

 

 

 

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Let Live and Let God

Hey guys 🙂

Sorry it’s been a few days since my last post but I needed to recharge my writing batteries. I am sure my fellow writers can relate! 🙂

Today I want to talk about something we are all faced with at some point. Letting go.

There are many things we are faced with in life that prompt the question  “Should I stay or should I go.” (great song by the way)

In the past, letting go was something I seriously struggled with. It never really crossed my mind to turn to God during these times and allow Him to take over. Sometimes, in order for God to work through us we have to be willing to step aside and let Him do his work.

Philippians 4:6

Do not be anxious about anything, but in everything by prayer and supplication with thanksgiving let your requests be made known to God.

Letting go can be frightening. Even if we know that deep down we need to walk away, many of us will hang on to bad relationships, jobs, influences etc. for we drown ourselves  in fear of the unknown. But God knows. He is leaps and bounds ahead of us and He knows what he wants for us even if we can’t see it at the time.

If we are not willing to jump, how is God supposed to catch us?

let your faith

Even if we stray from God, He manages to whisper to our soul the wishes He has for us. It manifests into that gut feeling we get when we know something needs to change for the better. He’s always there.

Always. ❤

When we feel pain and despair. When we feel stuck, when we cry at night thinking no one is watching, God cries with us. He wishes not to hurt us only to lift us up.

Let Him. ❤

It’s been my personal experience that the hardest thing to do is walk away from the people we love. Especially if we are worried for their wellbeing. We ask –

“If I walk away from this person, who will take care of them?”

God will.

It has also been my experience that when you face your fear of letting go and take the plunge, it’s never as bad as you think it’s going to be. On the contrary, it is in fact one of the most liberating things you can do! Once we free ourself from the chains of fear, God rewards us! It makes Him so happy that you put your faith in Him and in turn he blesses you with His love, joy and comfort.

If life were easy, there would be no need for faith. God puts our faith to the test not to punish us but to draw us closer and closer to Him so that He can protect us from the evil that roams this earth. Being true to God means you have to be true to yourself. We are a reflection of God’s image.

2 Corinthians 5:17

Therefore, if anyone is in Christ, he is a new creation. The old has passed away; behold, the new has come.

In closing, know that you are not alone. There may be dark clouds in the sky but when you rise above those clouds, you see the sun is shining bright! Allow yourself to place your burdens on God. He can handle it. He is God after all. You are a reflection of God and by loving yourself enough to let go, you love God.

We are His children and He is the Father. ❤

God

Take Care & God Bless ❤

Cavelle

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Family Ties, Money And Lies.

Couple Fighting over Money

 

Hey guys!

I hope everyone had a wonderful weekend. ❤

To kick off Monday, I want to discuss a choice we have all had to face at some point in our lives and that is whether to stay or walk away from certain family members. Especially in regards to money.

We have all encountered at least one family member that walks that fine line of what you will tolerate and what you won’t, yet the Bible tells us –

1 Timothy 5:8

But if anyone does not provide for his relatives, and especially for members of his household, he has denied the faith and is worse than an unbeliever.

Pretty strong words Timothy…

When we think of providing for relatives, I think most people immediately think of it in the financial sense because that is the kind of world we live in today. Everything revolves around money, which just happens to be the root of all evil and Timothy is also kind enough to point that out to us –

1 Timothy 6:10

For the love of money is a root of all kinds of evils. It is through this craving that some have wandered away from the faith and pierced themselves with many pangs.

So many families have been torn apart by money and the lies that can be attached to it but it’s time to redefine what providing for relatives really means.

It is my belief that God’s wallet can provide more for you and your family (whether it’s your immediate family, extended family,blood related or not) than money ever could so before you get yourself entangled in yet another cold war, I would like you to consider something –

Why money?

If your family is reaching out to you for money, especially all the time, stop to consider what the underlying issue may be. Is it really financial? On the surface that may be the case but have you really taken the time to understand their situation? Lend an ear or a shoulder perhaps?Or are you just throwing money at the problem in the hopes that they and their problem will just go away?

There is nothing wrong with helping family out with financial troubles but many times family members will keep score and all it takes is one wrong move for the volcano of resentment to erupt. If you cannot part ways with your money without strings attached, don’t give your money. On the flip side of that, if you are the one in need of money and it comes with strings attached, don’t take the money.

Today, many of us feel like money is the key to happiness. We feel that as soon as we get that new car or house or raise, that our lives will just magically turn around for the better and we think if we help out a family member financially that all their problems will go away and that they will be happy too but the Bible tells us straight up that God has already got you covered  –

Hebrews 13:5

Keep your life free from love of money, and be content with what you have, for he has said, “I will never leave you nor forsake you.”

Be content with what you have. Why is that such a hard concept for most of us to grasp? Why do we insist on chasing the carrot? For every one person out there who is wishing for more money, more this and more that, there is one person out there wishing for a fraction of what we already have.

When you have access to God’s bank account, you start to see that your life becomes richer in all areas and believe it or not, that can include money!

Perfect example of this in the Bible is when God answers King Solomon –

1 Kings 3:10-14

10The Lord was pleased that Solomon had asked for wisdom. 11So God replied, “Because you have asked for wisdom in governing my people with justice and have not asked for a long life or wealth or the death of your enemies— 12I will give you what you asked for! I will give you a wise and understanding heart such as no one else has had or ever will have! 13And I will also give you what you did not ask for—riches and fame! No other king in all the world will be compared to you for the rest of your life! 14And if you follow me and obey my decrees and my commands as your father, David, did, I will give you a long life.”

 

It’s time to stop throwing money at all of life’s problems and ask God to help us. It’s time to stop buying your family’s love and actually connect with your family. Help your family get through tough times with love, patience, and understanding knowing that God will take care of the rest. ❤

To quote my mother –

“God is the creator of the universe and you think He can’t throw a few bucks your way?”

Take Care & God Bless ❤

Cavelle

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

The Scoffers. Protect Yourself.

Scoffer – someone who jeers or mocks or treats something with contempt or calls out in derision.

I admit, I used to be one of those people in regards to Christians…

2 Peter 3:3-4

Knowing this first of all, that scoffers will come in the last days with scoffing, following their own sinful desires. They will say, “Where is the promise of his coming? For ever since the fathers fell asleep, all things are continuing as they were from the beginning of creation.”

The last days that Peter mentions must be here because this morning I decided to expand my reach by searching for Christian blogs here on WordPress. In the search bar I simply typed in “Christian” thinking I would find a string of Christian based blogs that I could reach out to and follow…

That’s not exactly what happened.

Here’s what did happen and in all honesty it made me sad and also fearful of what the world is coming to.

Now I should note that yes, I found true Christian blogs and that was nice to see but here are some examples of what was mixed into my search.

Titles such as –

  • Not Much Evidence For A Historical Jesus.
  • Personal View: Why I Don’t Believe In The God Of Evangelicals And Fundamentalists.
  • Most Christian Women have Poor Sex Life…Behave Like “Dead Bodies” In Bed – Bishop Dag Heward Mills.
  • Reasons I Don’t Like To Call Myself A Christian.
  • I Am Not A Christian

So I decided to be fair in this experiment and in the search bar I typed in “atheist”

*Warning: It doesn’t get much better from here on in*

  • Good God! (don’t you wish there was one?)
  • The Spiritual Quest Of The Atheist, In Six Questions
  • Everyone Is Actually An Atheist
  • Advent, My Way #9
  • Sermon By An Atheist

Now the thing is, just like when I typed in “Christian” and found a lot of atheist blogs, when I typed in “atheist” I found a lot of Christian blogs.

One thing I noticed about the atheist blogs which intrigued me was the fact that atheists seem to know the Bible quite well and even use Bible verses to prove whatever point they are trying to make…I am not saying this about all atheists but I have to question why some atheists are so interested in the Bible when they don’t believe in God.

The only reason as a Christian that I give atheists a remote platform here is because God warned us in the last days this sort of thinking was going to run rampant and it appears to be spreading like a virus doing everything in its power to destroy your faith, question your intelligence and lump you into a preconceived notion that people who believe in God are just “Bible thumpers” trying to cram their ignorant, religious agenda down your throat.

Just like there are plenty of good, honest people out there who believe in God and follow the word of God, I need to be fair to the other side of the coin and say not all atheists are bitter and trying to cram their beliefs (or lack thereof) down the throat of the Christian community. There are plenty of good people out there who don’t believe in God. Some of them are in fact my friends but it is not my job to dictate what path a person should take in their life. That is a very personal thing that only we can figure out for ourselves.

I like to keep things in my life as simple as possible so my suggestion on protecting yourself from this sort of thing is to simply not engage it. If someone does not want to believe in God that is their choice and God gave us free will therefore we need to respect that…on both sides.

I am not interested in debating someone who does not share my spiritual views. It is a waste of time and precious energy that I could be spending on myself and my personal growth as I walk with God.

What I am interested in at this point in my life is finding people who are navigating the same path to God that I am in the hopes that we can lift each other up in our faith. There is strength in numbers so why allow the non-believers (The ones who wish to harm us spiritually) divide and conquer our faith?

It is imperative that we protect our spiritual immune system. There is bitterness and contempt surrounding those of us who want to follow God and the word of God and it’s safe to say that bitterness and contempt is getting stronger and stronger everyday.

Proverbs 3:5-6

Trust in the Lord with all your heart, and do not lean on your own understanding. In all your ways acknowledge him, and he will make straight your paths.

Take Care & God Bless ❤

Cavelle

 

 

 

 

 

 

Mental Break – In Progress Update

Hey guys! 🙂

I know it has been some time since I have written anything here. The main reason being, I have reached a crossroads in which direction I would like to take Mental Break – In Progress.

Technically, I have had this blog for over two years now. The original premise was to create awareness about mental illness in order to combat the stigma associated with it and also to have an outlet and connect with others through something I have always loved and that is writing.

About eight months ago now, I went through some serious life changes and in the process I felt it necessary to delete my blog entirely. In hindsight, I wish I had given it some more thought before hitting the delete button. Two years of written work gone. Just like that!

After considering my actions, I decided no, I don’t truly want to give up my blog so I resurrected it and made an attempt to carry out the original blueprint but something changed…

I changed.

The blog and it’s current format does not speak to me like it once did and therefore I have struggled to write on the topic of mental illness that once came so easily to me.

After much deliberation, I feel I now know the new direction I would like to take Mental Break – In Progress and although I am not looking to turn my back on the original concept, it’s time for that concept to align with where I am in my life today.

As mentioned earlier, about eight months ago my life changed, in the best way possible. On July 1st, 2016 I turned to God to help me for the first time since I was a child.

I was raised to believe in God and went to church from an early age. I said my prayers every night before bed and my father would read the Bible to me and my brothers every night after supper. This would go on until I was around ten years old when my parents ultimately divorced. You see, even though God was present in our home, so was the devil. My home life for much of my childhood was surrounded with mental illness and abuse.

My father was technically diagnosed with bipolar disorder but did not follow through with therapy or treatment. He did not believe that he needed it. My father was also abusive.

Before I go any further, I need to make it clear that I am not trying to say all people with a mental illness are abusive because that is simply not true. The abuse in my family’s case was primarily from my father, whose father and mother were abusive to him and most likely my grandparents parents were abusive to them and so on and so forth.

My mother also comes from a line of family abuse and found herself in a marriage with more abuse. Needless to say, this took a toll on my mother and did not bring out the best in her.

As I entered into adulthood, I would end up finding myself in abusive relationships and I would retaliate with abuse…not my finest hour to say the least but the biggest form of abuse I endured was self abuse.

My entire 20’s was spent in a downward spiral to nowhere and during that time, I lost my way with God. I turned my back on Him. I doubted the word of the Bible, that God was truly watching over me and I scoffed at Christians and organized religion assuming that every church going person, despite their choice of religion, was feeding into a fraudulent, flawed and political agenda.

Now in some cases, that is true and there has been more than one church over the course of time that fits that bill but there are also many that don’t but at that point I just lumped it all together.

Like I said, I turned away from God and I started to focus on things like astrology, tarot cards, numerology…New Age philosophy and the list goes on. I was extremely interested in those subjects and I practiced them. They were my new found spirituality yet at the pit of my gut, God still lingered (although He was a faint light at the time). The thought of a Higher Power still existed in my mind but I attempted to call it everything but God.

Needless to say, during this time, nothing in my life was going right and the self abuse continued to get worse and worse.

When I hit my 30th birthday, something started to change. Perhaps it goes along with starting a new decade of your life. When I turned 30, I cried and I am not entirely sure why. Perhaps it was because I was so far removed from where I thought I should be in life and really had no direction that is until I started this blog.

Oddly enough, being diagnosed with bipolar disorder is when I feel my life truly started to take shape. Many people use their mental illness as a crutch but for some reason, I felt liberated by the experience.

As I started receiving therapy and treatment, I started to notice something. I was changing in a positive way and the people I surrounded myself with were not.

Two years later I would call out to God to help me after finally having enough of the self abuse and the toxic environment I insisted on putting myself in over and over again. It turns out God was waiting for this moment because as soon as I called out to Him, my life changed more than it had in 32 years.

That same day, I left a six year relationship that was not serving either party well and I hopped a plane and moved back to my home town to be closer to my family who had recently in the last year moved back home as well. This would be the first time in nearly a decade that our entire family would be together in person and not spread over long distances and Facebook messaging.

I was prepared to live alone and find myself. I had jumped from relationship to relationship with mild success at best and I was tired of it. I wanted to find me and felt the only way to accomplish that was to avoid romantic relationships entirely.

God on the other hand had other plans for me. When I arrived home my brother introduced me to his friend “D”. D and I discovered we had lots in common and in a short amount of time we found ourselves in love and are currently engaged.

Now on paper it could be argued that I was about to repeat the same mistakes but because I had asked God for help, he not only helped me but blessed me with my soulmate and to be honest, I was beginning to think the idea of a soulmate was foolish and a bunch of fluff.

D and I were on a similar path when we met. We had experienced much of the same hardships in life and self abuse and we both were trying to rekindle our relationship with God and so we took each others hand and started that journey together.

Eight months ago, I would not have fathomed this was possible. I would have told you to save it for fairytales.

So why am I telling you all of this? What does this story have to do with my blog?

Well, it explains the new direction I want to take my blog and that is the direction of God. Just as medication and therapy treats mental illnesses, so too does the word of God. God knows we are suffering and He wants to help you. He didn’t have to help me after everything I had done (or not done for that matter) but He did.

God cannot help us if we do not ask but when we do ask – Wow! He responds in kind. You help yourself by admitting you need help and as soon as you do that, God is so excited to help you.

I want to continue down my new found path with God through this blog and it is my hope that not only can I spread the awareness of mental illness but also the spiritual awakening I am currently navigating. It’s not always going to be pretty. I will stumble and fall. We all do and it may feel like no one has your back but I am here to tell you, God does. You don’t have to agree and I can only speak for myself but I can’t hide anymore and I don’t want to. I want to explore my faith openly.

I hope you will join me on my journey and I look forward to seeing where Mental Break- In Progress 2.0 will take me. I plan to revamp the blog over time to reflect this new path I am on so if you would like, stay tuned for more updates. 🙂 ❤

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Take Care & God Bless ❤

Cavelle