Are You Burning Out? Six Things You Need To Know

Stress
Does this look familiar?

 

Hey guys!

Today, I want to start off by saying it does not matter if you have an existing mental illness or not. We are all at risk for burnout.

 

Burnout:

Physical or mental collapse caused by overwork or stress.

 

Are you burning out?

In Canada, billions of dollars (yes, billions) are spent related to mental health problems in the workplace. This accounts for over 75% of short term disability claims.

It’s an epidemic.

I have fell victim to burnout before. In hindsight, I feel I could have prevented it had I paid more attention to the signs. I would like to go over some of the signs today in the hopes that if you’re reading this, you can catch and prevent burnout before it’s too late.

 

1. Sleep Disturbances:

I place a lot of importance on this one. Proper sleep is crucial for our mental and physical wellbeing. Sure, we all have a night here and there when a full eight hours just doesn’t happen but definitely keep an eye out for insomnia and on the other end of the spectrum, chronic fatigue.

Neither one is healthy and if ignored in the early stages, it can become a vicious cycle that becomes very difficult to break out of. When your brain won’t shut off or refuses to turn on, this is the first sign something is not right. Do not ignore this!

2. Lack of Concentration and Forgetfulness:

Once your sleep patterns are off you will start to notice you just can’t seem to focus at work anymore. Simple tasks become daunting and that is if you are lucky enough to remember those tasks in the first place. This too becomes a vicious cycle. You may notice your boss is on your case more..

“Why isn’t this done already?…We talked about this yesterday…remember?”

You start to miss deadlines, memos, lunch and breaks because you are trying to make up for your lack of organization which in turn, just adds more stress to the existing problem…

3. Loss of Appetite:

Since you have been missing lunch and breaks trying to catch up on your work, your appetite starts to go off the rails. You may find you don’t have an appetite at all anymore or you may find yourself going without food most of your shift only to come home and eat one giant meal…and since you can’t sleep, you might as well turn on Netflix and eat that bag of chips and drink a gallon of pop…

4. Anxiety and Depression:

As you continue down this rabbit hole, it is not long before you find yourself on edge about your work. Not only are you having trouble getting out of bed in the morning but you are seriously not looking forward to your day anymore.

At this point, you have most likely spent sleepless nights stressing over what has to get done the next day. It makes it harder and harder to walk through those doors no matter how many cups of coffee you drink.

Coworkers who used to brighten your day just don’t cut it anymore. You look around and see everyone going about their workday with relative ease. You start to feel isolated because you feel you are the only one who is not able to keep up with the pack.

5. Physical Symptoms and Increased Illness:

Your brain rules the body and when your brain is not happy, the rest of your body will follow suit. You may notice chest pain, stomach troubles, headaches, tense muscles etc. This takes a toll on your immune system making you more susceptible to illness. You find yourself going from perfect attendance to using up those sick days at a rapid rate.

6. Anger: 

You have now gone from being a ray of sunshine at work to a dark cloud of cynicism. You’re snappy, detached, resentful, and ultimately start to not give a flying (you know what) about whether or not you return that email or finish that project on time.

After all, you’ve been coming into work early and leaving late to make up for the fact you cannot complete your work during your regular shift. You’re working overtime (and most likely not getting paid for it). In your mind, you have done more than anyone else at work and you start to resent your boss and your coworkers because none of them seem to be appreciating the extra effort.

Nobody else cares so why should you?

Once you have reached the anger stage, consider yourself done. It will officially not get any better from here on in unless you take action. Your boss and coworkers at this point would rather avoid you as your state of mind is now considered to be a liability to the rest of the team which only fuels your resentment.

Although it may not feel like it, you do have some options here. I highly recommend taking stress leave. If that is off the table for you than consider switching to a different department and then there is the option no one likes to admit, leave your job.

I know what you’re thinking right now…

“I can’t do that! How will I pay my bills? How will I… (insert one of your many excuses not to save your mental and physical health here.)

The thing is, if you do not acknowledge this for what it is and continue down this path of destruction, pretty soon you will not have a choice. You will either be fired or in the emergency room suffering from a full blown nervous breakdown.

That’s the reality should you choose to ignore all of this. It will not be a matter of if but when.

On top of that, it’s not just in the workplace, your home life will suffer miserably. The people who truly matter will be pushed away.

If you have a partner or spouse, I can assure you this will lead to arguments and fights. It can even lead to more serious complications like divorce. If you have children especially, why risk their well being because you are refusing to take care of your own?

Is it really worth it?

I sincerely hope that if you are reading this and relate to even one of the signs I have listed, take action before it is too late. Talk to your doctor, talk to HR and perhaps give yourself a talking to.

Your mental wellbeing is worth taking care of! Not just for yourself but for those you love. If you put yourself on the backburner you will burnout.

Take Care & God Bless ❤

Cavelle

 

 

Family Ties, Money And Lies.

Couple Fighting over Money

 

Hey guys!

I hope everyone had a wonderful weekend. ❤

To kick off Monday, I want to discuss a choice we have all had to face at some point in our lives and that is whether to stay or walk away from certain family members. Especially in regards to money.

We have all encountered at least one family member that walks that fine line of what you will tolerate and what you won’t, yet the Bible tells us –

1 Timothy 5:8

But if anyone does not provide for his relatives, and especially for members of his household, he has denied the faith and is worse than an unbeliever.

Pretty strong words Timothy…

When we think of providing for relatives, I think most people immediately think of it in the financial sense because that is the kind of world we live in today. Everything revolves around money, which just happens to be the root of all evil and Timothy is also kind enough to point that out to us –

1 Timothy 6:10

For the love of money is a root of all kinds of evils. It is through this craving that some have wandered away from the faith and pierced themselves with many pangs.

So many families have been torn apart by money and the lies that can be attached to it but it’s time to redefine what providing for relatives really means.

It is my belief that God’s wallet can provide more for you and your family (whether it’s your immediate family, extended family,blood related or not) than money ever could so before you get yourself entangled in yet another cold war, I would like you to consider something –

Why money?

If your family is reaching out to you for money, especially all the time, stop to consider what the underlying issue may be. Is it really financial? On the surface that may be the case but have you really taken the time to understand their situation? Lend an ear or a shoulder perhaps?Or are you just throwing money at the problem in the hopes that they and their problem will just go away?

There is nothing wrong with helping family out with financial troubles but many times family members will keep score and all it takes is one wrong move for the volcano of resentment to erupt. If you cannot part ways with your money without strings attached, don’t give your money. On the flip side of that, if you are the one in need of money and it comes with strings attached, don’t take the money.

Today, many of us feel like money is the key to happiness. We feel that as soon as we get that new car or house or raise, that our lives will just magically turn around for the better and we think if we help out a family member financially that all their problems will go away and that they will be happy too but the Bible tells us straight up that God has already got you covered  –

Hebrews 13:5

Keep your life free from love of money, and be content with what you have, for he has said, “I will never leave you nor forsake you.”

Be content with what you have. Why is that such a hard concept for most of us to grasp? Why do we insist on chasing the carrot? For every one person out there who is wishing for more money, more this and more that, there is one person out there wishing for a fraction of what we already have.

When you have access to God’s bank account, you start to see that your life becomes richer in all areas and believe it or not, that can include money!

Perfect example of this in the Bible is when God answers King Solomon –

1 Kings 3:10-14

10The Lord was pleased that Solomon had asked for wisdom. 11So God replied, “Because you have asked for wisdom in governing my people with justice and have not asked for a long life or wealth or the death of your enemies— 12I will give you what you asked for! I will give you a wise and understanding heart such as no one else has had or ever will have! 13And I will also give you what you did not ask for—riches and fame! No other king in all the world will be compared to you for the rest of your life! 14And if you follow me and obey my decrees and my commands as your father, David, did, I will give you a long life.”

 

It’s time to stop throwing money at all of life’s problems and ask God to help us. It’s time to stop buying your family’s love and actually connect with your family. Help your family get through tough times with love, patience, and understanding knowing that God will take care of the rest. ❤

To quote my mother –

“God is the creator of the universe and you think He can’t throw a few bucks your way?”

Take Care & God Bless ❤

Cavelle

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Animal Love!

Hey guys!

I hope you are all doing well. 🙂

Today I want to switch things up a bit and keep it light as we approach the end of the week. I am currently sitting in my favourite chair and as I look out the window, the sun is shining bright. Lately, I have been in a wonderful state of mind so I want to share the love. ❤

Some of you already know this, but I have two cats. Charlie and Miss Belle. They are basically my children and I find them to be highly entertaining. Their personalities crack me up and I have managed to capture this in pictures so I thought I would share my favourite pictures of each of them plus a few of my other favourite animal moments captured in time. If your day is off to a rocky start, I hope these photos can put a smile on your face. ❤

Let’s start with Miss Belle. She’s a diva at heart, possessive (yet very lovable) and although she is half the size of Charlie, she is the alpha of the two…of the whole house actually lol.

Here is her royal highness…

 

Miss Belle

As you can see, Miss Belle is not overly impressed that I disturbed her beauty sleep, yet when she wants the love, she will let you know…

MIss Belle 2

An then there is Charlie…he’s quiet and loves to snuggle…

Charlie Snuggles

Charlie allows Miss Belle to take the lead on everything. They remind me of an old couple and Charlie is the one always saying “Yes dear.”

He has his moments when he’s not so shy…

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Here is Charlie in all his glory. He had no problem posing for his boudoir photo shoot. ❤

It’s not just my cats that I love. Before Charlie and Miss Belle, I considered myself to be more of a dog person…

Tonka

 

 

This is Tonka. He’s one of the happiest dogs I have ever met. He loves to play and he loves to play in the water even more…

 

Tonka Water 2

 

Tonka Water

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

And sometimes, I have some random visitors show up at the house like this little guy…

Rabbit

He (or she) was quite content nibbling on some grass in the back yard. ❤

Sometimes I think I love animals more than human beings. Animals can bring such joy into our lives. They love us unconditionally and offer the kind of therapy money can’t buy.

What are your favourite animal moments? Feel free to share the animal love here! ❤

Take Care & God Bless ❤

Cavelle

 

 

 

Starting Over

Where do I begin?

I guess should backtrack to a few months ago when I decided to shut Mental Break-In Progress down permanently and without warning…

I apologise for that sudden drop off the blogosphere. I was going through quite the life changing moment and I was purging many things out of my life as a result. At the time, I truly thought my blog was one of the things that needed to go.

Turns out it’s not.

Back in July, I ended a six year relationship. Out of the six years, about four of them were attached to an engagement relationship status.

As a result of this breakup, I decided the best course of action was to move 4000 miles across the country back to my hometown so I could be closer to my family and start fresh. I was tired of city life by this point so small town living was looking really good to me.

Instead of going into all the dirty details regarding this breakup/move I am going to skip it. This blog is public and I don’t feel like dragging anyone through the mud like Taylor Swift does every time she breaks up with someone.

Truth is what’s done is done and by making this move, it turns out many things were waiting for me when I arrived home. Family, friends, support, love….yup…love of my life was in my home town this whole time. We met through my brother and well, things took off from there.

Some may feel I did not allow myself enough time to process the breakup before moving forward. To that I say…my previous relationship fizzled out probably a good year before I actually decided to call it quits so in my eyes the break up was not some fresh open wound…this had been coming for awhile and both parties involved knew it…it’s just neither one of us wanted to admit it…I’m sure many of you out there can relate. You stick it out because you’re afraid to let it go.

Through this whole process. I feel like I am learning how to walk again. All the action that’s happened in the last 3 months has prompted me to change medications and seek out a proper therapist which I am happy to report that I finally get to see one next week.

For those of you battling your own mental illness, medication change can equal chaos…at least at first. I have been going through withdrawal and it’s been overwhelming at times. I am thankful to be in a relationship with someone that truly gets it as he has been down this road before.

I think for now this is where I will sign off. If you’re going through some not so pleasant life changes right now just know that I am rooting for you. They say trouble comes in three’s but I like to believe the good follows at the same rate. It’s just a matter of time.

Take Care! ❤

Cavelle